Showing posts with label Motivational. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motivational. Show all posts
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Sunday, 6 May 2018
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i was not the one to cry on weakness
i was not the one, rude on known faces
i was not the one who was harsh and abrupt
i was not the one to leave the place i loved
it was you, the situation
i was the one who struggled to survive
who kept on finding what was right
things are still puzzled, to my surprise
but dear difficulty,
i am not your summer bride
you still wonder how i continue to thrive
well, you won the game with a wrong drive!
A poem by Richa Shrivastav
Richa fought and won her duel with Schizophrenia. Dear Richa, you are an inspiration to many. Thrive, girl!
Posted on
Sunday, 10 January 2016
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A year from now you will wish you
had started today.
- Karen Lamb
- Karen Lamb
Your relationship with yourself sets
the tone for every other relationship you have.
- Robert Holden
- Robert Holden
Man
stands in his own shadow and wonders why it’s dark.
- Zen Proverb
- Zen Proverb
Patience is the art of concealing your impatience.
- Guy Kawasaki
- Guy Kawasaki
A person’s a person, no matter how small.
- Dr. Suess
- Dr. Suess
I didn’t have time to write a short letter, so I wrote a long
one instead.
- Mark Twain
- Mark Twain
Simplicity does
not precede complexity, but follows it.
- Alan Perlis
- Alan Perlis
All change is
not growth, as all movement is not forward.
- Ellen Glasgow
It’s a very powerful thing when
someone sees you as the person you wish you were.
- Veronica Mars
- Veronica Mars
Where wisdom
reigns, there is no conflict between thinking and feeling.
- Carl Jung
- Carl Jung
Posted on
Wednesday, 17 October 2012
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While all of us want to excel in life and achieve the desired goals, motivating ourself and sustaining those motivation levels over a prolonged period is the biggest challenge that we face in our endeavour towards reaching our goals. We need not to be an expert in psychology to motivate ourselves because all of us use various motivational techniques in our daily lives that we have learned through our experiences however it is advised to have a basic understanding of our motivational processes because it helps us to better organise our thoughts and mental processes.
First we need to understand what is motivation. Motivation is channelising our mental energy into the service of our goal. It constitutes various push and pull factors that leads to sustained goal directed behavior. Mental energy is needed for performing any mental task and we need to properly channelise this energy in service of our goal otherwise it may get wasted or in the worst circumstances may serve to fuel our negative impulses and thoughts and may lead to negative and pessimistic behavioral pattern. So now we know what is motivation and why we should make a conscious effort to properly channelise it into the service of our goal. Now the question that arises is how? Well first and foremost requirement before we make an effort to motivate ourself is to know what are my current level of motivation and what is my motivational pattern. Suppose you wake up in the morning and you are not feeling like going to your work and taking it as a burden. It is an indication that your motivational levels are low and your motivational engine is low on fuel of mental energy. It has been found that most of us are able to gauge that our motivational levels are low but we follow the wait and watch policy that things will get better in due course of time and sometimes this period of inactivation sustains for a long time. This inactivation period leads to frequent delaying and revision of our goals and we may end up getting much lower results than what we were looking for. What we need to do is actively observe ourself and make an active intervention when we see our motivational levels going down. Motivational levels are bound to fluctuate from high to low but all we need to do is do not let the inactivation period of low motivation to prolong beyond a level.
Now moving on to the techniques about how to motivate ourself. The first and foremost requirement is setting up the goal and our approach towards the goal. There are three ways in which we can approach a goal. First is called as Mastery goal orientation in which we compete with ourself and try to get the best of ourself and be the best that we can become. Second approach is called as Ego goal orientation in which we compete with others and want to be better than others. Third approach is the Ego avoidance approach which results from fear of failure where we want to succeed because we think we might get criticized if we fail. Ego avoidance approach is a negative approach and should not be resorted to. Mastery goal orientation is the best because it results in best possible realisation of our potential. By following the ego goal orientation we can become better than others but may not get the best out of ourself. Many psychologists suggest that while practicing and preparing for the goal we should follow mastery goal orientation while in actual competition when we compete with others we should follow the ego goal orientation.
After we are done with getting our approach right we need to set the goal. The goal that we set must be SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action oriented, Realistic, Time bound). We should set specific goals because ambiguous goals can be frustrating and fail to give a direction to your efforts and motivational energy. Our goals should be measurable because it provide us regular feedback to us about our progress and reinforces our motivational levels. Goals should be action oriented and not result oriented because when we focus on product or ends our attention get distracted from the process or means and our goal is compromised. Goal should be realistic and moderately challenging because while easy goals result in low motivation, overambitious and unrealistic goals can overwhelm the individual. Goals should be time bound for them serve to give us feedback about our progress and reinforces our future motivation and expectancy about realisation of our goal. Also always prefer to engage in activities that you have interest in because you get satisfaction merely by engaging in such activities and such activities naturally motivates you. When we engage in activities for external rewards and not for the pleasure that we get by engaging in activity, it is relatively harder to sustain the motivational levels.
We should follow a healthy life style and do meditation, yoga or aerobic exercises because they lead to a healthy body and healthy mind. We should engage in leisure activities and also take time to talk and laugh. These activities serve to recharge your mental facilities and discharges the hidden stores of negative impulses and pent up feelings. Playing sports is a good way for cathartic release of our negative impulses and feelings.
We should indulge in positive self talk because it changes our negative cognitions and beliefs and reorients our motivational processes in positive direction. As Hellen Keller has aptly said, 'Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence'. So when you are in a low motivational phase, talk yourself out of it. We can also take inspiration from the role models who were in similar position to us and emerged as successful. It reinforces our belief that we can also succeed in the things that we are doing. It fuels our motivational engine with much required positive mental energy.
Imagery is a very potent technique to motivate ourself. When we frequently imagine our future desired image in our mind it becomes part of the self and our belief and motivation about achievement of the goal increases. William Arthur Ward has famously said,' If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it'. Karlene Sugarman observed that our body can not distinguish between what is real and what is imagined. This underlines the importance and power of imagination.
Now moving on to the techniques about how to motivate ourself. The first and foremost requirement is setting up the goal and our approach towards the goal. There are three ways in which we can approach a goal. First is called as Mastery goal orientation in which we compete with ourself and try to get the best of ourself and be the best that we can become. Second approach is called as Ego goal orientation in which we compete with others and want to be better than others. Third approach is the Ego avoidance approach which results from fear of failure where we want to succeed because we think we might get criticized if we fail. Ego avoidance approach is a negative approach and should not be resorted to. Mastery goal orientation is the best because it results in best possible realisation of our potential. By following the ego goal orientation we can become better than others but may not get the best out of ourself. Many psychologists suggest that while practicing and preparing for the goal we should follow mastery goal orientation while in actual competition when we compete with others we should follow the ego goal orientation.
After we are done with getting our approach right we need to set the goal. The goal that we set must be SMART (Specific, Measurable, Action oriented, Realistic, Time bound). We should set specific goals because ambiguous goals can be frustrating and fail to give a direction to your efforts and motivational energy. Our goals should be measurable because it provide us regular feedback to us about our progress and reinforces our motivational levels. Goals should be action oriented and not result oriented because when we focus on product or ends our attention get distracted from the process or means and our goal is compromised. Goal should be realistic and moderately challenging because while easy goals result in low motivation, overambitious and unrealistic goals can overwhelm the individual. Goals should be time bound for them serve to give us feedback about our progress and reinforces our future motivation and expectancy about realisation of our goal. Also always prefer to engage in activities that you have interest in because you get satisfaction merely by engaging in such activities and such activities naturally motivates you. When we engage in activities for external rewards and not for the pleasure that we get by engaging in activity, it is relatively harder to sustain the motivational levels.
We should follow a healthy life style and do meditation, yoga or aerobic exercises because they lead to a healthy body and healthy mind. We should engage in leisure activities and also take time to talk and laugh. These activities serve to recharge your mental facilities and discharges the hidden stores of negative impulses and pent up feelings. Playing sports is a good way for cathartic release of our negative impulses and feelings.
We should indulge in positive self talk because it changes our negative cognitions and beliefs and reorients our motivational processes in positive direction. As Hellen Keller has aptly said, 'Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence'. So when you are in a low motivational phase, talk yourself out of it. We can also take inspiration from the role models who were in similar position to us and emerged as successful. It reinforces our belief that we can also succeed in the things that we are doing. It fuels our motivational engine with much required positive mental energy.
Imagery is a very potent technique to motivate ourself. When we frequently imagine our future desired image in our mind it becomes part of the self and our belief and motivation about achievement of the goal increases. William Arthur Ward has famously said,' If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it'. Karlene Sugarman observed that our body can not distinguish between what is real and what is imagined. This underlines the importance and power of imagination.
When you engage in conscious monitoring of yourself and take active intervention when your motivational levels are low by using appropriate motivational techniques, it will not only lead to your desired goal being achieved but will also result in a healthy self concept, increased self esteem, high confidence, increased sense of well being and above all hope of a better future.
Posted on
Sunday, 23 September 2012
Yahaan Pe Dard Ki Cheekhein Sisakti Hain Kinaaron Pe,
Badi Bekhauf Ho Kar Raat Hansti Hai Ujaalon Pe ..
Main Unn Cheekhon Ki Tanhai Ko Sunta Hu Akele Me,
Ke Aankhein Kho Gayi Hain Khokhli Khaali Daraaron Me ..
Ye Soonepan Se Mujhko Aaj Ek Awaaz Aayi Hai,
Haan Jisne Bujh Gayi Thi Kabse Jo Wo Lau Jalayi Hai ..
Ke Ab Ruk Jao Tufaano Hai Humne Kheench Di Rekha,
Abhi Deewangi Ka Aankhri Manzar Kahan Dekha ..
Zameen Banjar Hai To Hum Gul Khila Denge Hawaaon Me,
Ke Patjhad Me Bhi Hum Patte Ugaa Denge Shilaaon Me ..
Yun Na Samajhna Ki Hum Thak Ke Gir Jaayenge,
Aur Toofano Ke Baad Yahaan Sirf Sukhe Darakht Reh Jayenge ..
Sapno Ki Hatheli Me Asha Ki Mehndi Rachayegi,
Jab Hum Muskura Denge Bahaar Khud-Ba-Khud Aayegi ..
Hindi Poetry
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Yahaan Pe Dard Ki Cheekhein Sisakti Hain Kinaaron Pe,
Badi Bekhauf Ho Kar Raat Hansti Hai Ujaalon Pe ..
Main Unn Cheekhon Ki Tanhai Ko Sunta Hu Akele Me,
Ke Aankhein Kho Gayi Hain Khokhli Khaali Daraaron Me ..
Ye Soonepan Se Mujhko Aaj Ek Awaaz Aayi Hai,
Haan Jisne Bujh Gayi Thi Kabse Jo Wo Lau Jalayi Hai ..
Ke Ab Ruk Jao Tufaano Hai Humne Kheench Di Rekha,
Abhi Deewangi Ka Aankhri Manzar Kahan Dekha ..
Zameen Banjar Hai To Hum Gul Khila Denge Hawaaon Me,
Ke Patjhad Me Bhi Hum Patte Ugaa Denge Shilaaon Me ..
Yun Na Samajhna Ki Hum Thak Ke Gir Jaayenge,
Aur Toofano Ke Baad Yahaan Sirf Sukhe Darakht Reh Jayenge ..
Sapno Ki Hatheli Me Asha Ki Mehndi Rachayegi,
Jab Hum Muskura Denge Bahaar Khud-Ba-Khud Aayegi ..
Hindi Poetry
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Mujhe Ghero Na Andhiyaron Zara Roko Kadam Apne,
Meri Aankhon Me Rehte Hain Meri Himmat Mere Sapne ..
Chalo Maana Abhi Bheegi Hain Palkein Aur Samaa Hai Naam,
Magar Badlengi Rang Aankhein Meri Badlega Ye Mausam ..
Haan Har Zarrey Pe Kaabiz Har Taraf Mera Nishaan Hoga,
Ke Saaton Aasmaan Se Dur Jaake Aashiyaan Hoga ..
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Mujhe Ghero Na Andhiyaron Zara Roko Kadam Apne,
Meri Aankhon Me Rehte Hain Meri Himmat Mere Sapne ..
Chalo Maana Abhi Bheegi Hain Palkein Aur Samaa Hai Naam,
Magar Badlengi Rang Aankhein Meri Badlega Ye Mausam ..
Haan Har Zarrey Pe Kaabiz Har Taraf Mera Nishaan Hoga,
Ke Saaton Aasmaan Se Dur Jaake Aashiyaan Hoga ..
