Do you know that
90% people in the world blame others for being fake. How come only 10% people in the
world are fake and rest 90% that make the majority of population are natural or real???
Other questions that tickle my mind everyday are: Why do people behave fake?
Are all other people, who say they are real; actually are real? Or when you lie
for some good reason with no intention to hurt anyone...just for your own well;
makes you a fake person? Why do some people behave sweet in certain situations and fake their personality by artificially modifying their
behaviour?
While looking for answers of all these questions
I came across one thing. May be its not about being fake or real...Politically
it’s about more fake/lies Vs less fake/lies.
Let us discuss all these things one by one.
First of all why do people behave fake? People
may behave fake to fit in with others around them or it may be an attempt to become a person
they are not. It may be because they want to change who they are in small ways because
they are uncomfortable with certain
people or situations. Sometimes people may act fake just to make their own
lives seem more exciting. However in
most of the cases, it is because people feel insecure about themselves in
certain situations or surroundings.
For some people
it's a way to get attention, the loud voice, the drama, the toxicity. It works
for some people, and it's all they have, negative or positive attention, no
matter, all the same!
Are all other people, who say they are real;
actually are real? Believe me no...They are not!!! The case of truth and lie, natural or
fake is more than a subject contradiction. Even lies and fakes reveal certain truths.
We better acknowledge the facts of truth/lie mixes than pure expressions of either
truth or lie. A
basic reason is this: Humans
discover reality both physical and mental. In physical regard human limit is
his skin; of his physical body. In mental regard his limit is his ability in
thinking, guessing and imagination. Humans live simultaneously in different
worlds or levels of reality. To be able to find a stand of himself or to be able to be himself humans test their limits in order to find out whether they should dare to
exceed them or not. And it is here that lies and fakes come into picture.
When you lie for some good reason with no intention
to hurt anyone...just for your own well; makes you a fake person? Well this depends to what
extent you have gone with your lies because you cannot always justify your lie
under the guise of “lie being said with no bad intentions”. There are many
cases where lying would be the correct thing to do, namely when withholding or
altering the truth would be more beneficial than being honest. The simplest
case is that of a "white lie"; for example, giving a positive opinion
that does not truly reflect your feelings to save someone's feelings from being
hurt. When someone asks you if they
look good in an outfit or if you like their new haircut and your answer is
really not what they wanted to hear, you might want to consider telling a white
lie. A lie spoken in such sort of situations is for the good because the truth
could really hurt someone's feelings, while a lie might lighten up the moment.
Why do some people behave sweet in certain
situations or surroundings and fake their personality by artificially modifying
their behaviour? People behave that way because it is part of being human. Humans are
essentially social creatures. They long to be a part of a community. If people
did not modify their behaviour to conform to different social situations,
society would basically stop functioning. Part of the deal we make with society
is that in order to get the benefits of society, you don't always get to do
what you want to do. However, sometimes it's not worth the hassle of being
honest with people. For example, suppose a few people tried giving advice to a
co-worker but he turned against all of
them. They were right in their intention of
trying to help but he saw it as them "going against him."
Generally lies shall protect a human on his
way to be able being him. In lying the human is hiding behind lies and fakes,
because:
# he fears being not acknowledged - lies and fakes thus serve as calls for
attention;
# he fears being destroyed by truth - lies and fakes thus serve as calls for
indulgence;
# he wants to show his courage while being - lies and fakes thus serve as
stories of great fantasies and wishes to be someone special;
# he wants to hide his egoism - lies and fake thus serve as means to make him
appear humble or holy or human.
In all cases we
must not forget the difficulties everybody has in finding himself as being
himself in a world full of temptations, hurts, insults, measurements and
claims, of which many of them are not human, but deeply inhuman. Lies und fakes
are mostly thought as being protective for the unprotected soul. In other cases
lies and fakes shall serve as diversions from looking upon the unprotected
soul.
- By Sudha Kripal (Guest Writer)
- By Sudha Kripal (Guest Writer)
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